Learn these unique and fun Hawaii food (and dining) etiquette tips. From chopsticks etiquette to potlucks, your next visit to Hawaii will be much more rewarding!
Food etiquette should fun and helpful, never intimidating.
Hawaii is a special and very unique place. And with that, we have our own set of common etiquette tips. I hope this comes in handy! None of these are exotic rules. Most are common sense. They all revolve around food and dining.
Note from a Local: Because we have a large Asian population, many of these etiquette tips also apply in Asia.
We use chopsticks often (for all kinds of food!) in Hawaii.
Do not stick your chopstick directly in the rice bowl (standing up). This is considered rude and also very bad luck.
Instead, set your chopsticks across your bowl or plate (along the rim). Or place it in the chopstick rest next to your bowl or plate. You want the chopsticks to rest parallel to the table, not perpendicular.
Hawaii is family oriented and we often have big family dinners served...family style! Think three generations of family for Sunday night dinner at home or Friday night out at a restaurant. Either way this means big plates of food places in the center of the table (or on a lazy susan).
Do not serve yourself first. There will be many dishes placed at the center of the table. No matter how hungry you are, do not dive in and load up your plate first. This is bad manners, especially if you didn't help prepare dinner.
If someone encourages you to "go first", the right thing to do is serve the oldest person (usually both grandma and grandpa) at the table first. Then serve yourself.
Or you can offer to serve everyone. It's more work but people will be like, woooow so good manners. But usually you can serve the *oldest, then yourself, and then pass the serving utensils to the person next to you (might be your cousin or sibling, etc).
*If you're serving one grandparent, then you should serve both.
The Potluck Exception
We are big on potlucks and garage parties in Hawaii. Because these are more casual affairs and often much larger, the serving others rule doesn't have to apply here (though I still think you should always help prepare grandma and grandpa's potluck plate).
Do not rush to the front of the potluck line. Just not a great look. Let older people go up first. Also do not waste food. Eat what you take.
Fill your plate up good! We love to eat and potlucks are a big and fun celebration of eating. Also feel free to go up for seconds and thirds...that just means you really like the food.
Note from a Local: I grew up in Hawaii with the idea of it being ok to go for seconds and thirds. It wasn't until I spent more time in France that I learned that going for seconds and thirds of your cheese plate is very bad manners. I was told I should decide exactly how much cheese I want to eat ahead of time and take only that. o_O
Bring A Gift (And Remove Shoes)
Did a friend invite you over to their home for dinner? Lucky you! Nothing beats Hawaii hospitality and home cooking.
Do not come empty handed.
Bring a gift. Doesn't need to be fancy or expensive. The gift is a thoughtful touch and a small thank you for the invitation. It's a way to show appreciation.
Bring a bottle of wine, a great pie or cake (we have many great dessert places in Hawaii), or an appetizer (think fresh poke or beautiful sashimi). No need to stress too hard about it ^_^
Note from a Local: Always remove your shoes when entering someone's home. If they say, "oh no, it's ok to keep your shoes on," then it's ok to keep it on. But the default assumption is definitely to remove your shoes.
Local food is not diet food.
Don't assume your plate lunch will come with *salad or any sort of greens. The only "salad" that exists on a traditional plate lunch is mac salad. We love carbs, meats, and sweets in Hawaii. We have amazing produce and vegetables in Hawaii but salads are not really a thing.
Order some veggies on the side.
Hawaii was the first state in the US to ban plastic bags.
Don't expect your purchase to come with a plastic bag. If you want a bag (it will be a paper bag), there will be a small surcharge (usually around $.25).
Bring your own bag. Many people keep reusable bags and tote bags in their car trunk. We use this for everything from grocery shopping to picking up takeout food orders.
Always leave a place nicer than when you found it.
Do not leave trash lying around. Empty food containers, utensils, soda cans, water bottles, etc. We see it on the beach, in the parks, and on hiking trails all the time. It is heartbreaking. Why would anyone want to come to such a beautiful place and do this?
Clean up after yourself. It's common sense.
Try It (Or Politely Pass)
One of the best parts about food in Hawaii is the diversity of food! From Chinese to Hawaiian, Japanese to Korean and Filipino and Portuguese and SO much more, you can live in Hawaii for a lifetime and still not explore all the food offered here.
Do not immediately assume that something won't be delicious. You never know till you try.
If you really don't want to eat something, then don't. Politely pass. No need to make a funny face or crack an insulting joke...no one benefits from that.
Do try it! There is nothing to lose. What is the point of living (and traveling all the way to Hawaii) if not to explore and learn and eat. If you don't like something you never have to eat it again. But at least you tried it.
Mainly, just enjoy the food here ^_^